Stars don’t die quietly
they scream light into the blazing sky
with Ares’ sword pointed towards themselves
spitting and burning the
they splatter blinding supernovas
into the black padding of the night
dying stars don’t wink at the moon but take
pride in their indifference to
Love of the withering
light that burns them up from the inside
constellations of dust and
dents that hold the everlasting dark
until they do no more and
The Joy of January
I have to confess to usually hating January. It’s cold, its dark, the Christmas lights that were making everywhere look so pretty are gone, money is tight and it’s so cold that I’m left clinging to the radiator like we are shipwreck survivors.
This year I have changed my whole attitude to January and have been embracing it. After the craziness of Christmas, I’ve been taking this quieter month as a real opportunity to have some downtime and spend more time quietly at home. To take care of my house a bit more, to read with my children. My evenings have been spent snugged-up indoors having a hot bath and reading one of the awesome books or box-sets that I got for Christmas. I have been enjoying the gentle quietness January brings.
This time also allows for some quieter reflection of what I would like to achieve in 2018, rather than the big – I wanna be skinny – resolution, I can take time to really think. I mean, obviously, I do want to be skinny but I am able to take the time to really think about how I am going to achieve that. But also consider life goals, work goals, what writing I want to work on, family goals. To really think about the year ahead and what will be best for us all.
I also decided to have an online detox in January and have been attempting to Marie Kondo the hell out of my life. It’s still a work in progress but if it doesn’t bring me joy… I’ve unsubscribed and unfollowed. I’ve changed my notification settings so that my phone isn’t pinging every two minutes with notifications that I don’t need to see urgently. It’s been really nice to receive emails and notifications that do bring me joy, and it definitely feels less overwhelming.
Now that we are nearing the end of January, I am loving seeing little shoots appearing in the ground and I hope that I too will be able to step into February feeling entered, refreshed and renewed.
January Writing Workshops
The Let’s Start Writing Workshop that I ran at the beginning of January was fantastic and we had such a wonderful time. I love running this course as it’s so much fun seeing people trying something new for the first time and loving it.
And great news – starting on Monday I am running another two courses that you can sign up to…
There are plenty of testimonials on the Writing Workshop page so take a look. Enjoy the rest of your January and I hope to see you on one of the courses soon.
I have great news! After the successful Let’s Start Writing Workshop that I ran in September, I have decided to run it again in January – perfect for your New Years Resolution to write more or for your to buy for someone else for Christmas – and you can now sign-up for the next Let’s Start Writing Workshop now!
I get a lot of questions about writing and where to start. There is no doubt that starting is the hardest part, so I had the idea to help you do just that!
This September I will be running a free
LET’S START WRITING WORKSHOP
From Monday 11th September till Sunday 18th September I will send you a daily email with a discussion, tips & hints, examples and a small task for you to complete.
You don’t need any previous experience and you won’t be sharing anything so don’t be nervous. This is just about and for you. All writing prompts will be Creative Non-Fiction based meaning all tasks will ask you to draw from your own life and experiences, so again, no need to be nervous about coming up with epic novel ideas.
And… September is the perfect time to start because…
Changes in seasons always spark inspiration, classes start in September and (arguably more importantly) it means you have a valid excuse to get involved in a bit of ‘Back to School’ stationary shopping!
If you are worrying about writing, read my last post But I Can’t Write to remind you why you totally can!
This is going to be super relaxed and super fun and I can’t wait to see you there in September! xx
This has gone through your head, hasn’t it? I know it has. You know that you want to write but then the fear and the doubt creeps in, takes the pen from your hand and tells you to go sit down and stop getting ideas above your station. I know this because this is one of the biggest things people tell me whilst also telling me how much they would LOVE to write.
It might not just be that you believe you can’t write. It could be a belief you hold on to that everything needs to be perfect before you write, that you need to ensure you know everything before you start, a fear of failure, or a fear of success, you don’t think the time is right, the environment is right, your house is tidy enough… whatever it is, it all comes back to the little voice in our heads telling us do NOT put yourself out there.
Ultimately you are lacking the self-belief that you can do it – and you shouldn’t be!
And I get it, I totally get it! Even though I have had a book published, articles published, a short play performed, a First Class Honours degree in Creative Writing, been accepted to Cambridge University and write an award-winning blog, I still have that same little voice nagging in the back of my head telling me that I can’t do it and I’m not good enough!
So if you are feeling it, remember – feeling ‘the fear’ is fine. It’s normal. But you can never let fear control you because then it distracts you, demotivates you and will leave you regretting things you’ve never done. Take control. Get those thoughts and fears out. Dispel them by using them to fuel your writing.
Write about what you are afraid of. What could go wrong? What’s the worst possible outcome? But then write about why you are going to do it anyway. Write a list of all the amazing things you are going to gain from writing. Acceptance. Understanding. Perception. Control. Creative living. A place for your stories and memories. Ten minutes out of your day when it is just about you and your thoughts. The ability to control your own narrative… write down anything that is positive. In fact, do that now…
Write a list, right now, of at least 5 things you will gain from writing…. Go!
Amother idea… Whenever your inner critic comes screeching into your mind, make a note of what they are saying, give yourself some time to reflect on it and then write your critic a letter, giving them some advice on how to be kinder.
Another common thing people tell me when they are asking about blogging or sharing their story is – but there are already so many blogs about cancer / serious illness / make-up / whatever it is you want to blog about, out there!
And I always reply with this… Yes, there probably are BUT only you can tell your story your way. Only you know what it was like going through the things you have been through. Only you know how you feel about certain books / make-up / parenting. Only you can write that specific piece of creative fiction. And if you don’t tell it, you are denying the world from hearing what you have to say.
Don’t worry about what other people are doing – just worry about all the awesome stuff that you are doing.
Sometimes it’s just about giving ourselves permission to write. So take this, here and now, as your permission to write and to allow writing to help and heal you.
There is always going to be a day when you start. Everyone, even JK Rowling started at the beginning, having never had anything published, looking at a blank page, wondering if anyone was ever going to give a shit. Is the first thing you ever write going to be exceptionally amazing – maybe not, but it is going to be a hell of a lot better than a blank page! Seriously, no one is ever going to read that!
Happy Writing! x
P.S. I wanna read what you are writing so if you have a blog / book / anything, please leave the link in the comments below so that we can all take a look.
Hello all you lovelies!
It was a fantastic experience and the time flew past, meaning that it is actually over an hour but, hopefully it’s worth it.
Once you’ve watched the webinar you will know that there is our unique community supporting people after cancer on Facebook, set up by a qualified coach and health psychology specialist – Coaching Emily herself! If you’re not already a member, you can request to join the group here…
And if you want ALL the information, then please do grab a copy of the book here.
Only one more stop on the Virtual Book Tour so I will see you there on the 31st March!
Virtual Book Tour Love
Gosh I wish I really could feel that LA heat BUT let’s Virtually head over there and visit Esme Winterflood at her LA Lash Studio on Venice Beach.
Esme is sharing her excerpt from The Fabulous Woman’s Guide Through Cancer where she gives all the tips and tricks for lashes when you are going through chemotherapy.
Did you see the previous Virtual Book Tour stops?
Guest post ‘Managing Employees Returning from Critical Illness’
Read all about it here!
The Fabulous Woman’s Guide Through Cancer was Nicola Jane’s first ‘Book of the Month’
Read all about it here!
Still to come…
I will be meeting some fabulous women over the coming weeks so stay tuned and pass it on to anyone else who might be interested!
I am so excited to be able to tell you that we have a very exciting time coming up in March. This Virtual Book Tour is going to be FULL of events, interviews, giveaways, guest posts, blog visits, hangouts, vlogs – both on this site and on some other awesome blogs and websites including Nicola Jane, TEND Nutrition, Womb Cancer Support and more!
Sign up here so that you can keep up to date and find out about EVERYTHING that we have going on!