They say when someone dies that they leave a hole in your heart but I don’t think that’s true.
Instead, they add something to your heart. It has the shape and weight of a large boulder and its forever in the way. It makes it hard for your heart to keep working. Hard to breathe. I tried explaining that to a woman at work and she told me about someone her friend knew who had a tumour inside their heart the size of a pea. I think she thought that would help. Empathizing by sharing a parallel story. They did both involve hearts. Maybe the emphasis was lost over text message.
That is why I bought him online.
It’s non-fiction November and I love it. There are SO many wonderful non-fiction books, everything from creative non-fiction and memoirs to literary journalism and essays. There is something incredible about reading something and knowing that it is a true and lived experience.
These are just a few of my favourite non-fiction books that you might want to think about picking up this November…
I loved this book. It is a memoir following Amy Liptrot through a point of major change in her life of extremes. Going from living in one of the most remote and quietest parts of Scotland to a hedonistic lifestyle in London that quickly spiralled out of control and finding her way back again. It’s incredibly moving, beautifully written and gives an amazing insight into the mind of an addict. This book will also make you want to desperately visit the Shetland Islands!
This book is so unique. Nelson is also a poet which I think comes across in her work because the sentence structures are so stunning. This memoir reflects on the woman’s body through the lens of Nelson’s relationship with her body when she is pregnant and her gender fluid partner’s body as they transition. The text is very fragmented and jumps around time like she is trying to piece all her memories together.
This is one of my favourite books of all time. Katharine Norbury’s memoir is one of the most beautiful books I’ve read. It combines memoir and nature writing, following Norbury’s journey to the source of a river in the UK after she has a miscarrige.
This book does broach the subject of miscarrige, although its not discussed in length, I think its worth giving a trigger warning for a very sensitive subject.
Ohhh this book! Writer Jesmyn Ward lost five young men in her life in just five years! In this beautifully written memoir, Ward reflects on her relationships with these men and what lead to their deaths, as a way to look at the circumstances that young black men who live in poverty often find themselves in. Let your eyes be opened and your heart moved by this incredibly honest book!
I am reading this book at the moment. It is about ‘shock politics’ and how someone like Donald Trump (who she calls the ultimate logo) can become President of the USA. Although it’s about America, a worrying amount is relevant to the UK at the moment! It also looks at how we, as societies can stop letting fear taking over and bring unity back. As Klein says, ‘This is a look at how we arrived at this surreal political moment, how to keep it from getting a lot worse, and how, if we keep our heads, we can flip the script.’
Given that it is non-fiction, I kinda feel like I have to mention my book. Part self-help and part memoir this book moves from diagnosis to getting the all clear, trying to offer everything that I learned along the way.
Do you have any non-fiction books that you would recommend? If so, please leave a comment in the comments section below… I am always looking for books to add to my list of books to be read!
Happy Reading! x
I can’t see who has or hasn’t bought my book, The Fabulous Woman’s Guide Through Cancer, but if you have, I REALLY appreciate the support. It has been so exciting finally realising this dream for me and I really can’t thank you enough and obviously the more it’s brought and read, the better it is for ratings and spreading the word about the book which is why I have a little favour to ask…
Can I ask a favour, can you please pop onto Amazon and leave a review? Comments REALLY help keep the book on the Amazon algorithm so again I would really appreciate it. Please be honest in your review, whatever your thoughts they are just great to have up there and I would love to hear your thoughts..
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A reader messaged me saying they love the blog (thank you) but felt they didn’t really know anything about me. Interesting! I had never thought anyone would want to know about me in general but there is slightly more to me than cancer and colostomy’s – so here are 11 random facts about me.
So there you have it. 11 very random facts about me. If there is anything that you would like to know, leave a comment, let me know and I if it is something I want to share I may do a similar sort of thing soon…
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There is no doubt that it was easier for me to stay healthy whilst in Spain. The heat, swimming pool and delicious salads made it easier for me to eat healthy and move more everyday. It’s when I’m home I seem to struggle, especially with sugar and caffeine. I just get so tired with the kids etc… so it has to be done!
I know I said that I wasn’t going to ‘give up’ anything but as things are going quite well and want to keep moving in the right direction I decided to give up processed sugar. As well as wanting to be healthier I have given up sugar due to the horrible fatigue I have been feeling ever since having cancer as a way to try and help combat that. I am on day 6 now and it is going well. Apart from on day 4 when I accidentally had sugar in a drink I didn’t realise it was in (we will come onto hidden sugars in due course) but basically…. I have been making some ‘clean’ desserts as fab alternatives, including these delicious Cocoa Coconut Bites that are also a hit with the children – win win!
Moving wise I have taken the plunge and hired a personal trainer to make sure I keep exercising regularly and get the most out of my workouts. I will be starting with her on Thursday so in the mean time I keep moving and getting out and about and my Davina DVD’s whenever I can. Even when it was raining at the weekend, hubby the kids and I all got our wellies on a headed into the woods for a long country walk, heaven!
So 36 days in I would say that one thing that has been interesting is the effect I believe it is having on my children. They are getting out and about more and their diet has definitely improved as I find healthy or clean alternatives and – if I’m honest – I don’t want to be tempted by them eating something yummy I’m not allowed so I’m not giving them things I would have on occasion before. All in all I believe it is having a positive impact on the whole family, which is only ever good news in my eyes.
Walking into Breathing Space, you walk into a busy cafe selling delicious healthy juices and meals, with a buzzy reception desk and people heading to Yoga or Pilates in their studio but as you walk upstairs you are transported into a wonderful calming haven. Large sofas with luxurious throws. Dark, beautifully carved wooden furniture that looks like it has just arrived from Bali. Dimmed lighting and the obligatory calming music means you could only be expected to do one thing, relax.
I hunted out Breathing Space because I am in love with ESPA treatments. I don’t mean the products (which I also love) but the actual treatments. ESPA have very specific training and way of doing treatments they expect all therapists who use ESPA to keep to. Having trained in them myself when I worked The Spa at the Mandarin Oriental in Knightsbridge, London, I really do know just how fantastic they are. One of my favourite things is their philosophy that a treatments should be holistic and dedicated to you. Their treatments are also very effective but non-invasive, a perfect combination. I could go on and on about how fantastic ESPA is, but I think you get the point.
As with all things, an ESPA treatment is only as good as the person giving it. I had a massage and facial and both were fantastic. They upheld ESPA’s high standards perfectly and my skin felt and looked radiant afterwards. The therapist took an interest in what I wanted to get from the treatment and could adapt the treatment to make sure that was what she focused on. In the massage that was a lot of extra work around my shoulders. In the facial, using regenerative and hydrating products and doing a lot of draining and massage on my face to help clear the layers underneath the skin and tension I hold in my jaw.
I do think Breathing Space is quite expensive, but I do think that you are paying for quality and in this case, it was worth every penny.
I love this blog, I love the opportunity to write, the opportunity to share my story and the opportunity to do anything I can to help anyone who may be experiencing the same thing or something similar or know someone who is.
Most of all I love hearing back from you guys. Everyone’s stories and thoughts have meant so much to me, so I sincerely say thank you to you all.
I am not sure that I would ever go as fas as saying I am pleased I had cancer, but the way I have managed to take something so negative and from it gain the confidence to find my voice and create something I am really proud of.
In all honesty, if I can do it, anyone can do it, get through something they think may kill them and come out the other side stronger for it and I hope this blog continues to show that.
My dream for the next year of this Blog is that it continues to grow, build momentum and share more.
If you have any thoughts on things you would like to hear about or questions you would like me to answer, don’t be shy! Get in touch. Comment, Facebook, Tweet, Message me, whatever you like.
Thank you for reading, supporting and encouraging me. Big hugs and kisses, thanks and love xxx
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To celebrate this special day in the Reflexology calendar, Inner Haven have a number of offers to get you excited about all that is Reflexology and enjoy it with your friends.
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Over the years I have trained in a number of treatments but Reflexology always remains a firm favorite of mine. As well as being the most wonderfully relaxing treatment, it is truly Holistic, which means that it treats the Mind, Body & Soul at the same time.
Reflexology is an ancient Chinese therapy that works on the principle that nerve endings and energy pathways all travel down to the feet and present a map of the body on the feet. By massaging and stimulating these areas, Reflexologist are able to assist in treating the body internally and removing any blackages in the body’s energy. Reflexology is a very individual treatment that is tailored to you and your needs & current health.
Reflexology increases movement in the circulatory (delivering blood, oxygen and nutrients to the cells and organs) and lymphatic (removing waste and toxins from the cells and organs) systems on a very physical and cellular level – you are basically flooding your cells with the good stuff and encouraging the removal of the bad stuff. Reflexology is a natural treatment that encourages your bodies own systems to work more effectively. Having said that you need to do your bit to help. Drinking lots of water being step number one to keep flushing the cells clean.
Another effective function of Reflexology is that it balances the endocrine system which is in charge of all your glands, hormones, mood balancers, stress, which can go into overdrive when stressed or run-down. Balancing the glands again, can help with that lethargic and de-motivated feeling and can help to calm you and give you more energy. You will also feel like you have more energy once you body starts to detoxify…. another massive benefit.
As part of the balancing effect on your hormones, Reflexology can be very effective in regulating ladies menstrual cycles, something I have found Reflexology particularly helpful for in my clients.
As Reflexology is primarily a holistic treatment that looks to being about reducing stress and aiding relaxation this can have a wonderful effect on any stress induced conditions in the body such as headaches and sleep problems.
On top of all this Reflexology is a very relaxing treatment that also offers wonderful pampering – heaven! 🙂
On your first appointment, your Reflexologist will take a brief medical history and make sure everything is OK for you to go ahead with the treatment. You will remove you shoes, socks and pull your trousers up so everything below the knee is exposed then, sit back and get nice and comfortable. The Reflexologist will apply gentle pressure to the feet, ankles and lower legs. This pressure shouldn’t be painful, but not so gentle it will tickle either. I Have the most ticklish feet in the world but I am fine, it is a very different sort of pressure to someone tickling you.
You should very relaxed and calm. Most clients also tell me that they sleep better and their general feeling of well-being is improved after a Reflexology treatment.
Reflexology is completely safe during pregnancy as long as you have passed the 12 week point (which really is only advised to be an extra precaution) in fact I would go as far to advise it as strongly as is possible! I had Reflexology religiously through both pregnancies and I couldn’t recommend it enough. It helps with your energy levels as well as your general well-being. Towards the end Reflexologyists can start working on reflex points to assist the body in getting ready for labour.
Treatments are based in Harpenden, Hertfordshire, close to the station. To purchase a Gift Certificate please call 07834 789 107 or email firstname.lastname@example.org