The Anti-Bucket List

Cancer & Me, Journey Back to Health, The Anti-Bucket List

I think everyone is now familiar with the term Bucket List as a list of things you want to do before you kick the bucket.  When I was having treatment for advanced Colorectal Cancer  I decided that when I got better I would flip the idea and came up with The Anti-Bucket List… these were things I was going to do, not because I was going to die, but because I was going to live.  Got the idea?

I see this as different to New Years Resolutions because I consider those the be goals of the year, whereas this list is more things I want to do and experience.

Last year I only included a few things as I was still having treatment / recovering but there were;

  1. Travel to somewhere I haven’t been before / Travel for the first time with my P1010291colostomy bag – I went to Morocco.  Truly amazing experience.  I was so nervous to travel for the first time with a colostomy bag but in reality it was fine.  Just made sure I had plenty of everything (I took about 2 months worth for 3 nights) and in all different bags in case something happened, but nothing did.  No trouble flying.  Everything was cool.  Have now flown a few times, all fine.  And Morocco itself was out of this world.  It is firmly at the high end of my favourite places to go list (Mexico remains number 1).
  2. Go to University – Wasn’t easy and at times I wondered why I put it on the list but I did it.  I now go to the University of Hertfordshire reading English Literature, Philosophy & Writing and I absolutely LOVE it.  It is one of my favourite things to do on earth at the moment.
  3. Read another 3 books of my list – My list is the BBC Top 100 Reads voted by the public.  Its been really good actually, made me read loses of books I wouldn’t have otherwise, most of which I have really enjoyed.

So that was last year, but what about this year…  This is what I have so far…

  1. Go to a fancy Horse Race – by that I mean like Ascot, a traditional big race where the ladiesIMG_2621 get seriously dressed up.
  2. See a Ballet at the Royal Opera House –  I haven’t been for years.
  3. Visit Harry Potter world at Letchworth Studios – as close as I can get to the real thing.
  4. Take part in Cancer Research’s Colour Run – Have you seen how much fun this looks… has to be done.  If you want move information about it, visit or if you want to know more about why Cancer Research means so much to me specifically you can click here!
  5. Go somewhere I haven’t been before – This doesn’t have to be abroad, there is still a lot in the UK I haven’t seen.  Quite like the idea of the outer-Heberdies… anyone have any suggestions?

So that is the Anti-Bucket list as it stands but I am looking for inspiration and things to add so please leave and comment & let me know what else I can do that will bring fun and excitement to this year I’m living.

But, most importantly, what is on your Anti-Bucket list?  I really would like to know leave a comment & tell me.

Whatever it is, hope you have fun doing it! x

Some other awesome lists to check out….

101 Things to Do When You Survive

Bucket List Publications

My New Years Resolution is… To Keep My New Years Resolution

Goals, Life Coaching
Happy New Year

Happy New Year

Personally I love the new year.  The time for some reflection over the last year and time to pause and think about what you would like to achieve over the next.  For me, New Years Resolutions are all part of that but why is that most of us find it so hard to keep our new years resolutions and they are normally completly forgotten by mid-January?  Setting a new years resolution is no different to setting a goal, like we do for Life Coaching all the time so I am going to show you those principles so that you set new years resolutions that you can keep this year.

Firstly; make sure it is a goal that you want to set.  There is no point in setting a goal that you don’t really care about because you are setting yourself up to fail. Just setting the goal isn’t helping anyone, it has to be something you are willing to work towards so it has to be something you really want.

Secondly; Goals need to be specific.  It’s not good saying, I want to lose weight (thought I would go with that one as it seens to be the most common), be specific.  How much weight?  When do you want to lose the weight by?  How will you acieve this, through exercise / diet / both)?  If it is diet, what changes are you going to make?  If it exercise, when, where, for how long, how many times a week?  It might sound like a bit to think about, but the clearer you have everything in your head, the more likely you will do it.

Thirdly; You goal should be measuareble.  Think about not just your end result, but the milestones along the way.  Keeping with the losing weight theme.  If you wish to lose 2 stone in 4 months, you may set measurable goals of 2lbs a week.  If you lost 2lbs a week, you will have lost 2st in 4 months but it keeps it easier as you are just focusing on the 2lbs every week.

Fourthly; Make it attainable. I am terrible for this one.  If I want to lost weight, I wasnt to have lost 2 stone in time for a party in 2 weeks.  Its never going to happen and I just feel bummed out.  So keep it realistic and attainable.  You must believe you ca reach the goal you are setting for yourself.  If you know you do not have time to go to the gym 5 times a week, don’t set yourself a goal to do it.  Once you start falling behind with one part, we are more likely to give up so keep it attainable from the start.

Fithly; Keep your goal relevent.  This goes back to what I was saying in the beinning.  Look at your goals in the short and long term in relevance to your life.  It has to be something that you really want to do and you are willing to put the time in.  Whose got the time to waste to do something they don’t really care about?!

And finally; think about your time-frame.  If you have been following me so far, then you probably have already done this but not all goals fall into a specific time frame like weightloss so if yours doesn’t think about this now.  It can act as a really good motivator.  I for one work much better when I have a deadline in front of me.

Another tip I have is buddy-up.  Sometimes it is hard to work to deadlines etc… when you only have yourself to enforce them.  Working towards a goal with another can keep you motivated.  Like if you always go running with your friend, chances are, even if you can’t be bothered one day you will still go as you wont want to let them down.

So what are your New Year Resolutions?  Let me know in the comments section and lets see if we can all encourage each other to keep to them!

Love Nicola x