But I Can’t Write?!

Unknown-1.jpegThis has gone through your head, hasn’t it? I know it has.  You know that you want to write but then the fear and the doubt creeps in, takes the pen from your hand and tells you to go sit down and stop getting ideas above your station.  I know this because this is one of the biggest things people tell me whilst also telling me how much they would LOVE to write.

It might not just be that you believe you can’t write.  It could be a belief you hold on to that everything needs to be perfect before you write, that you need to ensure you know everything before you start, a fear of failure, or a fear of success, you don’t think the time is right, the environment is right, your house is tidy enough… whatever it is, it all comes back to the little voice in our heads telling us do NOT put yourself out there.

Ultimately you are lacking the self-belief that you can do it – and you shouldn’t be!

And I get it, I totally get it!  Even though I have had a book published, articles published, a short play performed, a First Class Honours degree in Creative Writing, been accepted to Cambridge University and write an award-winning blog, I still have that same little voice nagging in the back of my head telling me that I can’t do it and I’m not good enough!

So if you are feeling it, remember – feeling ‘the fear’ is fine. It’s normal. But you can never let fear control you because then it distracts you, demotivates you and will leave you regretting things you’ve never done.  Take control.  Get those thoughts and fears out.  Dispel them by using them to fuel your writing.

Write about what you are afraid of. What could go wrong?  What’s the worst possible outcome?  But then write about why you are going to do it anyway.  Write a list of all the amazing things you are going to gain from writing. Acceptance. Understanding. Perception. Control. Creative living. A place for your stories and memories. Ten minutes out of your day when it is just about you and your thoughts. The ability to control your own narrative… write down anything that is positive. In fact, do that now…

Write a list, right now, of at least 5 things you will gain from writing…. Go!

Amother idea… Whenever your inner critic comes screeching into your mind, make a note of what they are saying, give yourself some time to reflect on it and then write your critic a letter, giving them some advice on how to be kinder.

Another common thing people tell me when they are asking about blogging or sharing their story is – but there are already so many blogs about cancer / serious illness / make-up / whatever it is you want to blog about, out there!

And I always reply with this… Yes, there probably are BUT only you can tell your story your way. Only you know what it was like going through the things you have been through.  Only you know how you feel about certain books / make-up / parenting.  Only you can write that specific piece of creative fiction.  And if you don’t tell it, you are denying the world from hearing what you have to say.

Don’t worry about what other people are doing – just worry about all the awesome stuff that you are doing.

Sometimes it’s just about giving ourselves permission to write. So take this, here and now, as your permission to write and to allow writing to help and heal you. 

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There is always going to be a day when you start. Everyone, even JK Rowling started at the beginning, having never had anything published, looking at a blank page, wondering if anyone was ever going to give a shit.  Is the first thing you ever write going to be exceptionally amazing – maybe not, but it is going to be a hell of a lot better than a blank page! Seriously, no one is ever going to read that!

 

Happy Writing! x

P.S. I wanna read what you are writing so if you have a blog / book / anything, please leave the link in the comments below so that we can all take a look.

Today is National Writing Day!

National Writing Day a one-day national campaign to celebrate the power and pleasure of writing.

For National Writing Day everyone is being asked to share the ‘View From My Window.’ This is just a little activity to give you the chance to express your vision of the world around you, whatever that may look like.  Write what you ‘see’ when you look out of the window.

I am going to combine this with the ‘morning pages’ technique that I talk about in my book, where you just write, without editing or any concentration, just let the words fall out of you for 5 minutes and see that comes out.  If you want to join in the conversation, please do post what you write in the comments, I would LOVE to read it, equally if you want to keep it private, that is totally fine too – just WRITE!

Begin with the line, ‘The view from my window…’

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The view from my window is noisy.  With the types of noise you only hear when it’s quiet.  The sound of a neighbour’s radio, workman hammering on a roof, birds rustling on branches and the distant echo of a train.  Sounds pour through my window, all offering me a chance to see what is outside before I look.

But my eyes see something different.  A stillness.  The sun is made of more fire than light today and even the overgrown hedge branches are trying not to move because of the heat.  Bees aren’t moving, hiding in shady spots like lizards underneath rocks, desperately hoping not to be exposed.

But the brightness.  Like one of my daughters drawings when everything is the brightest, biggest version of itself.  Never one to paid a twilight sky navy it is a clear day, the sky coloured with the brightest blue in the box.

With nothing there and no one moving there isn’t much to look at, and yet, everything in my world is shown there.

Visit National Writing Day for more information about this awesome day!

Nicola B and the TWO Big C’s

I actually can’t believe that I posted this blog post 3 years ago! And still the importance to keep informing and spreading the message continues… Life with a colostomy…

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photo copyObviously the first one is Cancer.  But I have another big C, in a lot of ways it is a bigger C, certainly to me, so big that I often don’t really speak about it.  The other big C is my Colostomy.

For those who don’t know, a Colostomy is when you have part of your large intestine removed and what’s left diverted through the abdomen wall.  There are occasions when the procedure can be reversed but not in my case.  Truth be told, I struggled with finding out I needed a colostomy more than finding out I had cancer – cancer I could deal with, this I couldn’t.  I thought it was the absolute worst thing that could happen to me and I went into a very strange denial, praying it wouldn’t happen right until I woke up from my surgery.

I actually said if I didn’t have kids…

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Write Away!

Ever wanted to write a book but unsure where to start? Ever wished you could have 2 bestselling authors show you how? Then I have awesome news…


I am so excited to be helping put together this Creative Writing evening with Bibliomaniac where we will have authors Leigh Russell & Helen Cox showing you their tricks of the trade! 

No experience needed, no pressure, just an evening of fun to unlock a little creativity.

An evening of creative writing with Leigh Russell and Helen Cox
Harpenden Arms (upstairs)

8-10pm

Tuesday 25th April 2017

£25*
**TICKET PRICE HAS BEEN REDUCED TO £15 FOR A LIMITED TIME ONLY**
*ticket price includes 1 free drink & nibbles and 2 hours of a creative writing activities led by two incredible authors 

TICKETS AVAILABLE HERE!

Whether you’ve been writing for years or whether you’ve never picked up a pen before, come along for an evening of fun activities that will give you ideas, tips and advice as well as the chance to have a go at writing something in a secure and supportive environment!

How to write about your cancer experience – the webinar!

image1Hello all you lovelies!

Did you see the webinar that I did with the fabulous Coaching Emily last Thursday as part of my Virtual Book Tour?  If not, great news, you can see it here…

It was a fantastic experience and the time flew past, meaning that it is actually over an hour but, hopefully it’s worth it.

Once you’ve watched the webinar you will know that there is our unique community supporting people after cancer on Facebook, set up by a qualified coach and health psychology specialist – Coaching Emily herself!  If you’re not already a member, you can request to join the group here…

And if you want ALL the information, then please do grab a copy of the book here.

Only one more stop on the Virtual Book Tour so I will see you there on the 31st March!

Birthday Giveaway!

Virtual Book Tour

As ‘The Fabulous Woman’s Guide Through Cancer’ Virtual Book Tour coincides with my birthday I thought it was the perfect excuse for a Birthday Giveaway!

To enter, just pop your name and email address in here and don’t forget to tell your friends!

Find out about all the goodies that I have ready to send out to you in this video…

To enter, just pop your name and email address in here and don’t forget to tell your friends!

Already signed up, no worries, that means you are already entered into the draw!

Hope you are enjoying the Virtual Book Tour.  I am having the best time doing it, but would love to hear what you guys think, so please do let me know.  And don’t forget that we have LOADS more coming up.  I have a book review coming on The Writing Garnet, I am giving an interview at TEND Nutrition, a guest blog post about writing at Womb Cancer Support UK, a webinar about how to get started writing at Coaching Emily, my Birthday Giveaway draw, and a review at Through the Looking Glass… Plenty more to keep you entertained.

Nx

 

Come with me to Los Angeles!

Virtual Book Tour Love

Gosh I wish I really could feel that LA heat BUT let’s Virtually head over there and visit Esme Winterflood at her LA Lash Studio on Venice Beach.

Esme is sharing her excerpt from The Fabulous Woman’s Guide Through Cancer where she gives all the tips and tricks for lashes when you are going through chemotherapy.

So head over and visit Esme Winterflood here

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We still have loads more to come with our Virtual Book Tour so make sure that you sign up here to stay up to date with everything that’s going on and remember to pass it on! xx

Did you see the previous Virtual Book Tour stops?

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Guest post ‘Managing Employees Returning from Critical Illness’
Read all about it here!

 
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The Fabulous Woman’s Guide Through Cancer was Nicola Jane’s first ‘Book of the Month’
Read all about it here!

Still to come…

I will be meeting some fabulous women over the coming weeks so stay tuned and pass it on to anyone else who might be interested!

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1st Virtual Tour Stop – Nicola Jane

vbt-nicola-janeIt has begun!  That first day of my Virtual Book Tour and I am so excited… especially as I am starting off at the completely fabulous Nicola Jane.

Nicola Jane know everything that there is to know about post-breast surgery fashion.  From mastectomy bras to swimwear and everything in between they have you covered.

They wrote a fabulous section in my book, full of styling tips and information for shopping after breast surgery and I feel very honoured that they asked me to be their first ever ‘Book of the Month’ in the community part of their website.

Nicola Jane Book Of The Month: March
Wednesday, 1st March 2017

Introducing our Nicola Jane ‘Book of the Month’ for March: “The Fabulous Woman’s Guide Through Cancer” by Nicola Bourne

So head over and read all about it here…

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