As I said in my Nicola B and the Two Big C’s blog post, I have never hidden the fact I have a colostomy, traditionally I have never made a massive point of it either. This has changed slightly in the last few months. Talking about it more openly through the fabulous Cancer Research UK and starting to write for Coloplast UK and this blog have all, on a very personal level, made the experience of living with a colostomy easier for me.
The colostomy still remains hidden in many ways. I still dress in a way that keeps the bag unnoticeable, I generally wouldn’t mention if I was having a problem with it and even when writing articles about going on holiday or swimming with a colostomy, the emphasis has been on how to hide your bag and I think that I can generally say this is the same for most colostomy wearers (we generally refer to ourselves as Ostomates).
But something strange has been happening on my Facebook and twitter pages. Photo after photo of ostomates proudly showing off their bags! I think the most well-known would currently be the absolutely gorgeous Bethany Townsend with her photo in her bikini on honeymoon in Mexico.
Crohn’s and Colitis UK shared Crohn’s and Colitis UK’s photo.
July 2 · Edited
“I’ve had Crohn’s since I was 3 years old but was misdiagnosed until I was 11. Just 4 weeks later I was having 16 inches of my bowel taken out.
Since then I’ve been on steroids, infliximab, methotrexate and every other drug going as well as being tube fed for 4 years. After five more operations my bowel burst 4 years ago and I ended up with two colostomy bags. They thought that would help until 4 weeks later and it was back.
I then went on to have a stem cell transplant which was in trial in the UK, we all hoped it would work but unfortunately I caught MRSA of the skin and the blood and it nearly killed me twice. Since then my Crohn’s has still been extremely active, I’ve lost more weight and now I’m waiting for the NHS to fund a drug that hasn’t really been in the UK. If this doesn’t work a bowel transplant is in talks as I can’t have anymore of my intestine out as I haven’t got much left.. BUT I’m still hopeful.
Finally after three and a half years, I decided that my colostomy bags shouldn’t control my life. So when I went to Mexico with my husband in December last year I finally showed I wasn’t ashamed. Still hoping for a cure…”
#myCCUKstory by the truly brave and inspirational Bethany Townsend.
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She looks SO totally gorgeous. All I kept thinking when looking at it was, I wish I had that girls figure! But Bethany isn’t the only one, there is also the amaze balls Blake Beckford and the wonderful Thalia Skye, all showing them off.
What does this mean for me?
Well I’m not putting a belly-selfie up yet although if I’m honest that’s more weight vanity than anything else. (What?? Colostomy or no colostomy I’m still a girl!) Once I reach my goal weight, I may consider it, but seriously,
When I started writing for Coloplast, they told me that their hope was to make having a colostomy as normal as glasses or a hearing aid, just something some people need to live life to the fullest. This seemed a tall order because truth be known, I didn’t see my own colostomy like that. I saw it as a hinderance, a cruel reminder left on my body by a hideous disease. One that I accepted I had to live with and I was happy to get on with, but I hated it nonetheless. If I hate it, how will anyone else ever accept it?
What these Ostomates have truly done for me is given me a confidence that I didn’t imagine I would ever have about my colostomy.
It is not something to be shy about or hidden, it is something to be embraced and thankful for.
I honestly never thought I would reach a time in my life when I would think that about my colostomy.
So for that I am truly thankful to all ostomates who are putting themselves out there and normalising having a colostomy (or iliostomy – more about that in a later post).
My wonderful friend who bought me Fish and Chips when I was having my ‘This Too Shall Pass’ day said, “surely its just like underwear”. I had never thought of it like that but she is so right. Non-ostomates cover their privates with pants and knickers, I cover mine with a bag…. I do also still wear knickers… just wanted to make that clear!
The shifts that are happening in my brian at the moment are nothing short of miraculous and I truly have all the amaze balls Ostomates who are sharing their stories to thank for it xxx
As well as my friends, family, Cancer Research (especially you Tom) and Coloplast, love you guys xxx
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