This Too Shall Pass

I am having a tough day.  I have hay-fever so bad it is making my head foggy and I am struggling to write this post as just looking down is making my nose run.  My kids are doing everything they know they shouldn’t and completely ignoring me when I try to retain some semblance of control.  Worst of all, I had a horrendous leak from my colostomy bag.  Had I been out and about, I would have classed as one of the most embarrassing experiences of my life, thankfully I was home so able to sort myself out.

Why am I telling you all this, it’s not for an outpour of sympathy I promise but for a couple of reasons;

  • Firstly – If I am going to write about my life and experiences, I think it should be an honest representation.  There are days when I handle everything that has happened to me and my toddlers terrible two’s with (what I hope is) a positive grace, but there are other days when its hard, I want to give up and wish I didn’t have to deal with any of it.  This is one of those days.
  • Secondly – This must happen to others so I want them to know they aren’t alone, it happens to all of us.  Negative emotions are a part of life and an inability to talk about them can leave people feeling isolated and like they are the only one.

If there is one thing I have learnt over the last couple of years of cancer, treatment, aftershock, child-rearing and just life in general, it’s that, these feelings do pass, life will go on and another day (another hour in some cases) things will be easier.  In essence – this too shall pass.

The fantastic thing I have found by thinking ‘this too shall pass’ when things are rough, is that it stops me falling into to much of a downward spiral.  It reminds me to try and accept my emotions for what they are.  Sometimes tricky, sometimes difficult but I try to let them wash over me and move on and help myself where I can.  Like this morning…. a trip to Boots to buy a million Loperamide’s (which helps to take water out of the colon and should stop another leak) and bought the kids to an indoor play place to burn off some hyperactivity and I can try to get my head together through writing.

Hopefully missions accomplished but if not, don’t worry about me, this too shall pass.

Anything you think that helps when feeling blue?  If so please click on ‘leave a comment’ above and let me know, may help others too.

Nx

UPDATE

Firstly thank you to everyone who sent such sweet supportive messages, you are all so kind.  I also wanted to let you all know that ‘this too HAS passed’.  I already feel back to my normal self, thanks in large to my wonderful friend ordering Fish & Chips for tea and getting them delivered to the park where we were playing with the kids – genius!

But I also know this this too will pass and I may feel blue again another day but when it does I will be able to think to myself again – this too shall pass x

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11 thoughts on “This Too Shall Pass

  1. So sorry to hear you are having a bad day. Sometimes I get the kids to help me do a tiny bit of gardening/digging for treasure. Other times if im feeling really poorly and weepy, I bundle us all into bed and they watch Rio or Madagascar and I snuggle and doze. It will pass, like you say. Xx

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  2. So sorry to hear that you are having a bad day and hayfever really does not help. On my bad days, I tell myself I am allowed to have a bad day and the bad day often turns into just a few bad hours, so when I stop feeling sorry for myself, I go for a walk, put on, some really good music or cook something….You are allowed bad days NIcola and you have good friends around you who have obviously helped….you are also allowed to tell everyone you are having a bad day. And I think some rest is called for, it has been a busy few days. Sending healing thoughts and love xxx

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    • You are quite right I think some rest is certainly what the doctor ordered. Lots of fun but very tiring. You are also quite right that it was just a few hours in the end. Hence why I always try and remember when I am feeling low – this too will pass. Walking is a fantastic one though. Get the blood pumping and fresh air – can solve a lot! Thanks Lesley. Lots of love xxx

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  3. Remember your Mum would say to you “Nicola only worry about the big things not the small things, hay fever will pass and it is one of the small things” Tomorrow will always be better. X

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  4. Hello my lovely, everyone has good days and bad days but I just want you to know that i think you are amazing and such a massive inspiration – to me anyway xxx before u go to sleep tonight think of 5 positive things, then wish for a great day tomorrow.
    Just think not long till i see u in marbs and we are gonna make some great memories…not long to go now.

    Love en hugs to you xxx

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    • I know and I am SO super excited. Will be so awesome and I am feeling much better thank you. Good point about the 5 positive things, always good to remind ourselves of all the wonderful things we have in life. Thanks Nik xxx

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  5. You are not alone Nicola, many people feel like this. You could have stayed home today & had a duvet day, but you didn’t. You could have got all depressed over copious amounts of coffee & cake, but you didn’t. You took your kids out, did some writing, made the effort to organise a playdate & meet with friends. You chose for it not to control your day. I think you did great. I think you’re an awesome mum. xx

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    • Ahhh, thanks Leanne. That is so sweet of you. And I can’t tell you how much better it all made me feel. Back to my normal self but it is also thanks to you being such an awesome mate and coming up with such positive and inspiring ideas. Big hugs x

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