My New Years Resolution is… To Keep My New Years Resolution

Goals, Life Coaching
Happy New Year

Happy New Year

Personally I love the new year.  The time for some reflection over the last year and time to pause and think about what you would like to achieve over the next.  For me, New Years Resolutions are all part of that but why is that most of us find it so hard to keep our new years resolutions and they are normally completly forgotten by mid-January?  Setting a new years resolution is no different to setting a goal, like we do for Life Coaching all the time so I am going to show you those principles so that you set new years resolutions that you can keep this year.

Firstly; make sure it is a goal that you want to set.  There is no point in setting a goal that you don’t really care about because you are setting yourself up to fail. Just setting the goal isn’t helping anyone, it has to be something you are willing to work towards so it has to be something you really want.

Secondly; Goals need to be specific.  It’s not good saying, I want to lose weight (thought I would go with that one as it seens to be the most common), be specific.  How much weight?  When do you want to lose the weight by?  How will you acieve this, through exercise / diet / both)?  If it is diet, what changes are you going to make?  If it exercise, when, where, for how long, how many times a week?  It might sound like a bit to think about, but the clearer you have everything in your head, the more likely you will do it.

Thirdly; You goal should be measuareble.  Think about not just your end result, but the milestones along the way.  Keeping with the losing weight theme.  If you wish to lose 2 stone in 4 months, you may set measurable goals of 2lbs a week.  If you lost 2lbs a week, you will have lost 2st in 4 months but it keeps it easier as you are just focusing on the 2lbs every week.

Fourthly; Make it attainable. I am terrible for this one.  If I want to lost weight, I wasnt to have lost 2 stone in time for a party in 2 weeks.  Its never going to happen and I just feel bummed out.  So keep it realistic and attainable.  You must believe you ca reach the goal you are setting for yourself.  If you know you do not have time to go to the gym 5 times a week, don’t set yourself a goal to do it.  Once you start falling behind with one part, we are more likely to give up so keep it attainable from the start.

Fithly; Keep your goal relevent.  This goes back to what I was saying in the beinning.  Look at your goals in the short and long term in relevance to your life.  It has to be something that you really want to do and you are willing to put the time in.  Whose got the time to waste to do something they don’t really care about?!

And finally; think about your time-frame.  If you have been following me so far, then you probably have already done this but not all goals fall into a specific time frame like weightloss so if yours doesn’t think about this now.  It can act as a really good motivator.  I for one work much better when I have a deadline in front of me.

Another tip I have is buddy-up.  Sometimes it is hard to work to deadlines etc… when you only have yourself to enforce them.  Working towards a goal with another can keep you motivated.  Like if you always go running with your friend, chances are, even if you can’t be bothered one day you will still go as you wont want to let them down.

So what are your New Year Resolutions?  Let me know in the comments section and lets see if we can all encourage each other to keep to them!

Love Nicola x

Where on Earth Have you Been?

Journey Back to Health, Uncategorized

Good question!  The answer is I have been in a crazed world of sickness, sick children, work, health issues and tiredness and everything such as looking after myself and doing the things that make me feel better (such as this blog) have fallen by the weyside.  The complete irony of this is that these are the times when I need to fall back on my knowledge and skills within nutrition, self healing and recharging so why is it that it is at these moments it all goes out the window?

It is like it suddenly all becomes far to much to think about anything other than getting through the next moment.  Like a ‘burying your head in the sand syndrome’ (I’m totally coining that phrase) until you reach a point when you realise you can’t keep moving forward if you do this.  Now I am quite prone to the BYHITS Syndome (as I am now shortening it to) so how can I stop myself falling into it?  My theory is that you cant.  We are all human, we all opperate in normally humanly ways for the good and the bad.  All we can do it acknowledge that we do this and recognise it in ourselves.  Maybe have a think about the triggers that lead to BYHITS Syndrome so that you can start to recognise as these changes happen, giving you the opportunity to get off that path before you wonder to far down it.

For me, I find that I am slowly no longer on top of anything.  I will start a number of jobs, but never actually finish anything until I have so many half finished jobs it all starts to feel slightly overwhelming and I need a lie down.  The answer for me is seperating my time.  I now go to the University library when I need to do work and when I am at home I can concentrate on the children and housework rather than trying to do an unseccseful attempt at them all and getting nothing done.  I have also been taking fruit and snacks to uni with me so I am not snacking on chocolate and crap from the vending machines which makes such a difference to my energy levels.

So have a think about your life, what could you do to make things slightly easier and help that overwhelming amount of things you need to do feel like a small mound rather than a mountain.  Let me know what you find…. maybe it could help me too!  And then we can all have a relaxing lie down!

and relax

Love Nicola x